This is a day that should make women happy but all too often women are sad or angry. Mothers who are exhausted and don’t get the attention they deserve on this day. Some don’t even get acknowledged on Mothers Day. Some are bitter and angry because their kids prefer to have nothing to do with them. They prefer to enjoy themselves wrapped up in a video game or hanging with friends.
There are women who have been trying for years and years for a child. They have had too many losses to count and/or just nothing to show for motherhood at all. Some weren’t even lucky to ever see those two lines on that home pregnancy test. These women are so misunderstood. I remember quite often I was one of them. I was one who had my first miscarriage at 19. My husband and I got married 2 years later and ended up with 3 more miscarriages before we adopted our first daughter. I had been dubbed as the healthy one who was infertile for no apparent reason.
The doctors would tell me that I was healthy, but because I haven’t had a pregnancy make it passed the 2nd trimester, statistically my odds of complementing a pregnancy weren’t even a possibility. I was 24 years old and was told by 3 doctors that I wouldn’t have children.
THIS WAS MY GOAL IN LIFE! IT IS WHO AND WHAT I WANTED TO BE! I’VE BEEN DREAMING OF BECOMING A MOM SINCE I WAS 12. (no I didn’t want to be a mom at 12 but you know how girls dream of their wedding day as adults? That’s why I mean as a mom.)
I took it upon myself to figure out what was wrong with me and how to fix it. That is how I became pregnant with my little bundle and had her only 2 months after we adopted our first daughter. This is how they are both 5 years old if you were wondering.
I have thing 3 and 4 only this morning.
My older two are at church today celebrating mothers day there with their Mema. This is because I don’t attend church. That’s a topic for another time. However, they will be getting home shortly, and I will be seeing them soon. I have a small thing planned just for us because in my eyes I am celebrating them. Mothers day isn’t for them, it is for me. I am celebrating for the opportunity that I was given. They didn’t ask to be brought into this world. I went through hell to have my kids for my benefit. I celebrate Mothers Day for my children. They don’t owe me anything. Not a card, not a piece of jewelry, not even a thank you.
This is merely my opinion.
Mothers day was birthed from Ann Reeves Jarvis in the early 20th century in the USA. there have been many traditions around the world that celebrated mothers but this is how it came about in the US. There have been many who agree (like myself) that it has become entirely too commercialized and Jarvis stated that was not her intention.
Anna Jarvis wanted to honor her mother by continuing the work she started and to set aside a day to honor all mothers because she believed a mother is “the person who has done more for you than anyone in the world”
More on mother’s day around the world here.
Please comment below and tell me how you celebrate Mothers Day.
Do you go big? Are you the frustrated mom? I would love to hear. Happy Mothers Day.